My Perspective On Friendship
One of the biggest things in my life has been my friends. I love them, and I would do anything for them. Even when I am mad...I still think the world of them. Most of the time I think that they feel the same way. But, every once in a while someone says something, does something, and I suddenly realize that maybe I am alone. Does my perception of friendship cloud my own ability to see what is really there? Or am I unrealistic in my expectations of what a friendship is? Specifics aside, I look back on my relationships....and what do I see? I notice a lot of me caring...and not a lot of caring back.. My heart just breaks when I think that those who I love the most could really hide the fact that they don't really care about me.
What are the signifies a friendship? Caring, trust, and most of all UNCONDITIONAL love. No matter what my friends do, I love them. Even when they hurt me the most and I curse the day that they were born, somewhere secretly inside I care. When you truly come to value and respect someone, that just doesn't dissapear. I mean, if you truly love someone for who they are and what they are, that shouldn't just melt away. If it does you really never loved THEM. You loved what they did for you, the way the listened, the things that are superficial and garbage. When one human being loves another, that bond should not be easily broken. Weakened, distanced, or ignored, but it shouldn't be as if it never was.
So...now that we know who we really value as friends, I pose another question. When is it appropriate to put them before yourself? All those who are selfish and needy might dare to say never. If you can't bring yourself to put someone you love before you, I question your values. Sometimes it takes a gift of trust or understanding....not a physical sacrifice of self. I may not understand why my friends act they way they do, but I accept it. I fully embrace that persons spirit for who they are. If they were different, they wouldn't be the person that I love. Why then, do we attemp to change those who we treasure? Why do we beat down their spirit and cause them pain? I am not saying that I haven't, because everyone is human....we all do things that aren't smart, aren't loving, and just plain ignorant. But, when one fails to recognize that they have committed a crime against a friend is of the lowest of lows. Many people love to say that they would die for their friends, but do they realize that sometimes they are the ones who would pull the trigger? How then can we save our friends from our self?
Friendship is a treasure. I thank the Goddess every day for the people that I love most in my life. I celebrate their lives, because they make mine that more vibrant. I have had days upon days of fun and excitement....trust....and sometimes sadness. These were the people that helped me throught, gave me advice, and loved me UNCONDITIONALLY. They know the inner workings of my soul...and I cherish those who realize the importance of ME. Sometimes we all just need to give a little more and it will be returned three fold. Friendship isn't forever, so enjoy is while you can.
THE BOTTOM LINE- If you don't truly love your friends, its better to leave them then to lead them on
Song of the Moment- Silverchair, Black Tangled Heart
Mood- Sad, sorry, and hurt
What are the signifies a friendship? Caring, trust, and most of all UNCONDITIONAL love. No matter what my friends do, I love them. Even when they hurt me the most and I curse the day that they were born, somewhere secretly inside I care. When you truly come to value and respect someone, that just doesn't dissapear. I mean, if you truly love someone for who they are and what they are, that shouldn't just melt away. If it does you really never loved THEM. You loved what they did for you, the way the listened, the things that are superficial and garbage. When one human being loves another, that bond should not be easily broken. Weakened, distanced, or ignored, but it shouldn't be as if it never was.
So...now that we know who we really value as friends, I pose another question. When is it appropriate to put them before yourself? All those who are selfish and needy might dare to say never. If you can't bring yourself to put someone you love before you, I question your values. Sometimes it takes a gift of trust or understanding....not a physical sacrifice of self. I may not understand why my friends act they way they do, but I accept it. I fully embrace that persons spirit for who they are. If they were different, they wouldn't be the person that I love. Why then, do we attemp to change those who we treasure? Why do we beat down their spirit and cause them pain? I am not saying that I haven't, because everyone is human....we all do things that aren't smart, aren't loving, and just plain ignorant. But, when one fails to recognize that they have committed a crime against a friend is of the lowest of lows. Many people love to say that they would die for their friends, but do they realize that sometimes they are the ones who would pull the trigger? How then can we save our friends from our self?
Friendship is a treasure. I thank the Goddess every day for the people that I love most in my life. I celebrate their lives, because they make mine that more vibrant. I have had days upon days of fun and excitement....trust....and sometimes sadness. These were the people that helped me throught, gave me advice, and loved me UNCONDITIONALLY. They know the inner workings of my soul...and I cherish those who realize the importance of ME. Sometimes we all just need to give a little more and it will be returned three fold. Friendship isn't forever, so enjoy is while you can.
THE BOTTOM LINE- If you don't truly love your friends, its better to leave them then to lead them on
Song of the Moment- Silverchair, Black Tangled Heart
Mood- Sad, sorry, and hurt
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